12 April 2010

The Holy Ghost- lesson by Lorainne

A loving Heavenly Father sent the Holy Ghost to comfort, help, and guide Adam and Eve and all of his spirit children following the Fall.

Adam and Eve called upon Heavenly Father in prayer. The Lord sent the Holy Ghost to testify of the Father and of the Son and to teach Adam and Eve the gospel. (See Moses 5: 4-9)

Through the power of the Holy Ghost, Adam "began to prophesy concerning all the families of the earth, saying: Blessed be the name of God, for because of my transgression my eyes are opened, and in this life I shall have joy, and again in the flesh I shall see God" (Moses 5:10). Because of the witness of the Holy Ghost to Eve, she said, "Were it not for our transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient" (Moses 5:11).
  • How is our need for guidance from the Holy Ghost similar to that of Adam and Eve?
The mission of the Holy Ghost is to bear witness of the Father and the Son and of the truth of all things.
  • Think about times when the Holy Ghost has helped you grow in your testimony. Take time to record your testimony.
"...Make every decision you contemplate pass this test: What does it do to me? What does it do for me? And let your code of conduct emphasize not ‘What will others think?’ but rather ‘What will I think of myself?’ Be influenced by that still, small voice. Remember that one with authority placed his hands on your head at the time of your confirmation and said, ‘Receive the Holy Ghost.’ Open your hearts, even your very souls, to the sound of that special voice that testifies of truth.” -Thomas S. Monson

"The inspiring influence of the Holy Spirit can be overcome or masked by strong emotions, such as anger, hate, passion, fear, or pride. When such influences are present, it is like trying to savor the delicate flavor of a grape while eating a jalapeƱo pepper. Both flavors are present, but one completely overpowers the other. In like manner, strong emotions overcome the delicate promptings of the Holy Spirit." - Richard G. Scott


24 March 2010

Time to CELEBRATE...

168 years of Relief Society! 168 years of visiting teaching, compassionate service, sisterhood, motherhood, WOMANHOOD, teaching moments, testimonies, listening, caring, temple worship, workshops-- family history, photography, organization, travel, baking, decorating, literature, history, gardening, sewing, beauty, journaling, etc....
This past year our ward Relief Society has come together for scores of needs, classes, and opportunities to serve. Therefore, we felt it was appropriate to celebrate the Relief Society's birthday by CELEBRATING each of YOU sisters. To those who were not able to attend, we love you, missed you, and truly appreciate all that you bring to our Relief Society!

Here's a little recap of our fun birthday celebration:

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Click HERE for the corn and crab chowder recipe
Click HERE for the Zuppa Toscana recipe

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On our display table, we collected birthday celebration supplies such as cake mixes, frosting, candles, birthday cards, cake pans, cupcake supplies, etc. We donated the supplies to our local women's shelter and they replied with a gracious Thank You note. They were grateful to have replenishment for their birthday celebrations which they have regularly. They are grateful for the continued support of our Relief Society.

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Kayla came up with a memorable surprise game for our amazing Relief Society president, Sheryl. {Sheryl's birthday was the day after our party.} Kayla had a goofy picture of Sheryl blown up, and then photocopied the mouth & we played pin the lips on Sheryl. Here we are with our silly poses in support of silly Sheryl. Really, she has a huge heart and fills her days with love and service. We are so lucky to serve with you, Sheryl! SO lucky. We love you!

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***We also played a nail polish relay race & had a Birthday Yankee Swap. Everyone went home with a "birthday" gift and fond memories of a FUN Relief Society celebration.***

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Kayla used a flower scrapbook punch to make this bouquet of travel size scented hand sanitizer.

Happy 168th Birthday to the Relief Society. Best wishes in the year ahead!

04 March 2010

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Sisters,
Thank you for all of the small and large acts of love you offer each day.
Our Relief Society is better because of YOU.

Post Edit: Click HERE to read a beautiful illustration of how following seemingly simple inspiration can lead to blessing a life in a deeply meaningful way.

14 January 2010

Simplify

We had a timely 1st Relief Society meeting of the new year. Christine Vick, co-founder of the website, Store & Style, came and spoke to us about simplifying and organizing our lives. If you came to hear tips on organizing your closet, you definitely left with a whole lot more. Here are my notes (feel free to add to them in the comments)....

Christine asked us to list a few places in our home that are cluttered, that we'd like to organize. She offered the following tools to help us get started....

1. Trash bags. Christine uses a black trash bag in a lidded aluminum garbage can in the garage to toss unused items. If they aren't missed after 6 months (or so) then they are donated or tossed.

2. Markers. Label piles you're making as you declutter: Donate. Toss. Wash. etc.... whatever works for you.

3. Tags or Stickers. This may sound radical, but think about this.... Attach the tag or sticker to everything you own (or as near to that ideal as possible). As you use or wear an item, remove the sticker. After a few months assess what items in your home still have stickers and seriously consider whether you need it or whether it can be tossed or donated.

ORGANIZATIONAL TIPS:

1. Start with a workable space such as your purse, your refrigerator, your junk drawer, etc. Being able to quickly clean and organize a small space will motivate you to move on to bigger and more difficult areas in your home.

2. Dedicate a little bit of time each and every day to organizing. Just like grooming, cooking, cleaning, make this a part of your day, even if for just 15 minutes. Those minutes will add up over the course of a week and month. You'll see progress before you know it.

3. De-clutter for 15 minutes each day.

4. When deciding whether to keep or toss an item, as yourself: Is it beautiful? Do I love it? Is it useful? Do I use it regularly? Some thoughts to be mindful of that can keep us from de-cluttering: I paid a lot of money for this. I might use it someday. [Aunt Edna] gave this to me.

5. Places to donate: WHEAT Community Services in Clinton and Abby's House in Worcester.

Christine offered the reminder that when it comes down to it, none of the things in our lives really matter; we can't take them with us when we pass on from this life. What will matter most is our relationship with the Lord and our relationships with others. When you close your eyes and take a moment to envision your perfect day in your home, what is it like? What is your home like? What is your relationship with your family like? When you open your eyes, ask yourself if the way that you choose to spend your time aligns with the day you envisioned.

To get a quick idea of how you spend your time, keep a "TIME" journal for a day or two. Write down everything you do in your day. You may be surprised to find a few minutes here or there that can be reallocated to fit more with your goals and life you envision.

What keeps us from de-cluttering this aspect of our lives? Christine suggested the following stumbling blocks....perfectionism, unreasonable expectations, insufficient time allocated to a task. To overcome these roadblocks we need to set realistic goals and be realistic about allocating time we need to succeed.

Suggested reading:

"Good, Better, Best" - Elder Dallin H. Oaks

When we simplify our lives and schedules to where we are nurturing the things we value most, we will be able to hear and follow the promptings of the Spirit which is our never-failing guide.

Thank you, Christine for a wonderful presentation; lots of food for thought & action!

If you'd like to add anything, please leave a comment by clicking on "sisterly notes" below...

09 January 2010

Compassionate Service (& a goal for 2010)

Last Sunday church was canceled due to the poor quality of the snowy/icy roads. Kayla was supposed to teach Relief Society, and sent out a note with the following thoughts and challenge:

The Visiting Teaching message for December was on Nurturing through Compassionate Service. My testimony is that this message is true. "...In the end, the number of prayers we say may contribute to our happiness, but the number of prayers we answer may be of even greater importance. ...Let us be an instrument in the hands of the Lord to answer those prayers."
Sisters, may we keep the spirit of Christmas with us throughout the year of 2010, and throughout our lives. I would encourage you all to make a goal to read the Ensign each month, cover to cover. I know that as you do so, you will be blessed and your testimonies will be strengthened.
Thank you all for your diligence. Let's continue to strive to recognize the divine inspiration of Visiting Teaching.

Love, Kayla

Click HERE to read the January Ensign online. Have you started reading the January Ensign yet? If so, what article(s) did you enjoy? Here are a few that I've read and enjoyed so far:
How We Learned about Happiness (short and very sweet)
Hold on a Little Longer (includes a helpful personal assessment)

17 December 2009

From the General Relief Society Presidency....

The Nativity

As you reflect on the birth of our Savior this Christmas season, join us in remembering Him by serving someone on His behalf (see Matthew 25:40). We invite you to accept an invitation to do one of the following or something of your choice and share your experience with us (reliefsociety@ldschurch.org.):

  • Visit someone in need.
  • Act on your generous thoughts.
  • Do temple work.
  • Register and search for a family name in the new FamilySearch.

07 December 2009

Gratitude

I've been nursing a cold that has given me a horse voice, and although I really wanted to teach my lesson on Sunday, I'm so thankful for Lisle for stepping in for me on a day's notice. I enjoyed finding the information and content of the lesson. A comment by Robert Emmons, the professor whose study I referred to in the lesson, has stood out in my mind. He said, "Far from being a warm, fuzzy sentiment, gratitude is morally and intellectually demanding. It requires contemplation, reflection and discipline. It can be hard and painful work." Why? ...something to think about as you read through the lesson.

GRATITUDE

President Monson taught, “Through divine intervention, those who were lepers were spared from a cruel, lingering death and given a new lease on life. The expressed gratitude by one merited the Master’s blessing, the ingratitude shown by the nine, His disappointment.
Like the leprosy of yesteryear are the plagues of today. They linger; they debilitate; they destroy... We know them as selfishness, greed, indulgence, cruelty, and crime, to identify but a few. [Consumed] with their poison, we tend to criticize, to complain, to blame, and, slowly but surely, to abandon the positives and adopt the negatives of life.

  • Think about the "plagues of today" President Monson mentioned. Maybe you can think of a few more.
  • How do the plagues of today effect you? What do you do to lift your spirit and make yourself feel better?
“Gratitude is literally one of the few things that can measurably change people's lives [for the better]." - Dr. Robert Emmons

The following are the results of a “gratitude study” by Dr. Robert Emmons at UC Davis.
Experiment: More than a hundred adults were all asked to keep a journal, and were randomly assigned to 3 different groups. Group A had to write about things they felt grateful about. Group B about things they found annoying, irritating. Group C about things that had had a major impact on them. 2 out of the 3 different experiments were relatively intense and short term (keeping a daily journal for 2-3 weeks), while one required a weekly entry during 10 weeks.

Those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.

Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.

A daily gratitude exercise resulted in increased positive alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hassles or a downward social comparison (ways in which participants thought they were better off than others).

In a sample of adults with neuromuscular disease, a 21-day gratitude intervention resulted in increased high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.

Children who practice grateful thinking have more positive attitudes toward school and their families. (Froh, Sefick, & Emmons, 2008)

Well-Being: Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. The disposition toward gratitude enhances pleasant feeling states more than it diminishes unpleasant emotions without denying or ignoring the negative aspects of life.

Socially: People with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be understanding and to take the perspective of others. They are rated as more generous and more helpful by people in their social networks.

Spirituality: Those who regularly attend religious services and engage in religious activities such as prayer reading religious material are more likely to be grateful. Grateful people are more likely to acknowledge a belief in the interconnectedness of all life and a commitment to and responsibility to others (McCullough et. al., 2002). Gratitude does not require religious faith, but faith enhances the ability to be grateful.

Materialism: Grateful individuals place less importance on material goods; they are less likely to judge their own and others success in terms of possessions accumulated; they are less envious of others; and are more likely to share their possessions with others relative to less grateful persons.

A conscious focus on gratitude may also remind you of unassuming pluses that get lost in the ups and downs of a busy life. "The most important blessings are the ones that are most consistent," such as family, health and home, says Philip Watkins, an Eastern Washington University psychologist. "And those are the ones we take for granted." Grateful reflection helps you pick out and savor the good in life, even if the good isn't flashy. Gratitude helps bring to focus, highlights, and underscores what you DO have, and frivolous wants are seen for what they really are- fun and lovely, but absolutely optional.

SUMMORIZE: "The benefits from counting blessings are tangible, emotionally and physically," he said. "People are 25 percent happier and more energetic if they keep gratitude journals, have 20 percent less envy and resentment, sleep 10 percent longer each night and wake up 15 percent more refreshed, exercise 33 percent more and show a 10 percent drop in blood pressure compared to persons who are not keeping these journals."

Gratitude is literally one of the few things that can measurably change people's lives," -Dr Emmons

Gratitude unlocks the fulness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. -Melody Beattie

Besides thanking those who bless our lives, as members of the church, we know to Whom we give thanks...

Alma chapter 34 is the heartfelt sermon given by the great missionary, Amulek. He and Alma are preaching to poor among the Zoramites who have been humiliated and cast out of the synagogues because of their poverty. As Amulek teaches them he doesn’t waste much time getting to the heart of the matter...
“And we have beheld that the great question which is in your minds is whether the word be in the Son of God, or whether there shall be no Christ.” Amulek, a fairly new convert himself, bears fervent testimony of Christ, and in conclusion he offers one of my favorite invitations found in scripture....

“Live in thanksgiving daily for the many mercies and blessings which He doth bestow upon you.” -Alma 34:38

We can be thankful for our blessings, but when we acknowledge the source of all goodness not just in our daily prayers, but in our hearts throughout each day, we live in thanksgiving and are filled with the Spirit.

Thankfulness helps you see that you're an object of love and care. When we show gratitude for our Savior we acknowledge that He loves us and blesses us individually. We are worthy of His love.

  • How did the Savior “live in Gratitude daily”?

He expressed gratitude to His Heavenly Father in prayer when performing miracles (see John 11:41)
He expressed thanks for earthly things such as food (see Matthew 15:36)
He gave credit to Heavenly Father for giving us all things (see Matthew 11:27).
Through obedience to all He was commanded to do.

Professor Emmons said, "Far from being a warm, fuzzy sentiment, gratitude is morally and intellectually demanding," he says. "It requires contemplation, reflection and discipline. It can be hard and painful work." In the gospel light, Jesus showed that gratitude is more than a sentiment, rather gratitude is a VERB. We too can show this kind of gratitude to our Heavenly Father and “live in thanksgiving daily.”

WAYS TO DEVELOP AND EXERCISE GRATITUDE

some of these are fun for kids


  • Keep a running gratitude list
  • Keep a daily journal recording at least one way the Lord has blessed your life.
  • Create a gratitude paper chain that counts down to a holiday or birthday.
  • Take a conscious look at the beauty of the earth & recognize the Creator.
  • Say a prayer of gratitude; asking for nothing, but simply expressing thanks.
  • Study “gratitude” as it is taught in the scriptures.
  • Make a gratitude collage.
  • Spend time with grateful people.
  • Be cautious about being critical---seek understanding and don’t waste energy on negativity.
  • List gratitude ABC style: A- apples, B- brother, Jim, C- church, etc.
  • Don’t gossip or listen to gossips.
  • Write a gratitude letter to your children.
  • Write a letter of gratitude to someone who has blessed your life in some way, but whom you haven’t thanked (enough).
  • Celebrate other people.
  • Sing and/or listen to hymns or songs of gratitude
  • Collect gratitude stories.
  • Establish a Gratitude Book at Thanksgiving.
  • Play Gratitude ”I Spy.”
  • Contemplate your divine worth; you are worthy of the Lord’s love & blessings.
  • Find gratitude in every situation.
  • Simplify your schedule, possessions and relationships. It’s harder to be grateful if you are overwhelmed in any one of these areas.
  • Don’t deny yourself the basics – sleep, healthy food, exercise, solitude, etc.
  • Practice CONTENTMENT by practicing delayed gratification & honestly identifying needs vs. wants.
  • Simplify possessions- Be content with fewer, but good quality clothes.
  • Say “thank you” OFTEN.
May each of us carry the gratitude we focused on during the Thanksgiving holiday throughout our Christmas celebrations. And beyond that, as Amulek taught, may we “Live in Thanksgiving daily for the many mercies and blessings He doth bestow upon you.”

Post edit: The March 2010 issue of the Ensign has a wonderful article on Gratitude that compliments this lesson very well. Click HERE to read the article.